In the tradition of my previous post on how to answer a woman’s trick questions, I have come up with a few more statements a woman frequently say during the dating period so that men would have less complex experiences during dating.

I’d like to see you again = I’d like to see you again.

Sure, sounds good.. = I’m not that totally into you, but maybe I could be.

Sure, let’s meet up after we get off from work.  Just gonna do a quick errand = I’m going to change first and it’ll take at least 30 minutes to an hour.

What are you doing this weekend? =  Why in the world haven’t you asked me out?

Thanks for the compliment, I had this short forever = I bought it on my way home just for our date tonight.

I really should go now = You have 10 minutes to ask me to stay yet.

I really don’t prefer texting or email = Call me.

I have deadlines this week. Can you do raincheck until Friday at 8 PM? =  I’m dreadfully busy but I can squeeze you in.

So, is this life-sized Darth Vader model  in your hallway a joke? = You’re lucky, you’re hot.

It’s not you, it’s me = It’s clearly you.

This is generally talking, of course.  Woman have different ways of telling what we really want to.  But then, these can be helpful to the men out there who are having a hard time decoding a woman’s dating lingo.  This is also in honor of a friend of mine who once complained that reading a girl’s mind should also be taught in school.

There will come a time when a couple will be caught in awkward situations where the girl will throw you offguard.  Men often complain of the complexity of women’s minds while women also complain of how shallow or naive men can be at times.  So, for the men out there, unless you like the taste of your foot in your mouth, take a peek at these answers so that you won’t be caught off balanced once she asks THOSE questions.

Here are the right things to say to avoid a fight over the trivial things, well, to us women, they are important to some degree as well.

1.  Once she says :  Do I look good in this?

You will answer: No, not all all.  Your legs look great in that dress.

Ah, this is the winning statement for this trick question.  You’ll be in a battle if you actually say yes.  Women value honesty but you’re suppose to love and like us no matter how we look so a compliment is better.  Saying a direct no will sound like you just want a girl to shut up and go on.  Giving a specific compliment shows you pay attention to the body but notice the good ones.  When one focuses on a sexy trait, the attention deflects from the problem part.

2. Once she says: You don’t have to go if you don’t want to

You will answer:  I want to because it’s important to you

This statement is actually an invitation for you to just bail out, but don’t take it.  What she’s really aiming at is your support.

3. Once she says : So, is she cute?

You will answer:  Yes, but she’s skinny

Look,we know you guys aren’t blind and we KNOW if someone is prettier than us so if you pull a naive answer like, “No! You are the cutest!”, we know you’re lying.   This answer will let a girl know that although you find some other woman pretty, it’s not enough for him to drool over or even turn his head.

There, I have given you the free ride to an argument-free day.  It’s all in the answer and the manner of how you’re going to answer them.  But at the end of the day, your honesty is what matters above all. Also, you have to mean it from the heart.  Even if you say these things, women can still feel if it was sincere or just a memorized answer.  Compliments do not really spell a fight-less relationship, but know how to say it in a way that is objective.  What I’ve given are just ways on how to make sweet, little escapes.

A moody person is someone who displays a temperamental attitude ans subjected to varying mood swings.  They can be smiling and happy at one moment and then becomes angry the next.  Or they can be cheerful now and sulk in one corner the next.  But in today’s world where we have bipolar disorder or personality disorder, who can tell, right?  But then, for the sake of a safe argument, let’s treat them as moody people.

There is really nothing wrong to having mood swings, I mean, we all have our moments, right?.  But admit it, a moody partner can ignite our hidden moody personality and when two moody person collide, a battle is on.

So, how do we handle our partners who are over-the-top moody? Here are a few suggestions, and I warn you, some maybe drastic, but drastic times call for drastic measures.

1. Help your partner. Maybe the mood swings are because of work-related stress so we can’t just brush it off.  A simple act of holding out their hand will remind them about their behavior.

2.  Ignore the heat. It may not be the best thing to do but there are more important things than getting peeved with your partner’s moodiness.

3.  Deal with ‘em. Focus on their admirable traits and praise them for those.  Make passing remarks about their moodiness and how much you would appreciate if they could somehow correct it.

4.  Talk it out. It is very disconcerting to learn of their moodiness once the relationship is getting serious.  So, bring out the matter with them.  Tell them that their moodiness make you tense and edgy yourself.

5.  Set an ultimatum. If the above doesn’t work, set some kind of an ultimatum.  Tell them that if you won’t see any changes, you’d rather spend your time alone rather than be with him.  Just be prepared for the consequences of this measure.

6.  Compromise. When they are on their temperamental outbursts, encourage them to talk about your happy moments together.  This will make them compel their thoughts on the calmness and serenity they feel when they imagine the both of you walking hand in hand together.

7.  Dump them. This is the ultimate move if you have reached your boiling point.  I know, this is brutal, but then, you have given all your chances. You are already on the list of people who are candidates for a statue in the town square.  And they have never been able to demonstrate even little changes,  If you have reached the point that enough is enough, then it’s time to move on.

Remember to be always tactful and considerate of your partner’s feelings whenever you bring out the subject of their moodiness.  Set an example by being not moody yourself.  And most of all, nurture your friendship with them, your not only lovers, but ultimately, friends.

You have heard that nasty, wayward comment before.  With you and your special someone being compared to Disney’s Beauty and the Beast - except that in your case, it’s clearly you whom people allude  to as the abominable fairytale character.

There’s no denying that your man feels the same for you. But can you really go through life enduring the reckless remarks from people who don’t really know you?  Will there be a way to show people that the disparity in your physical looks matter little to your level of compatibility and degree of  mutual affection?

Here are some ways so as not to be deeply bothered when your man is indeed prettier than you:

1. Believe in your man.

Faith in each other transcends  the physical boundaries of every loving relationship.  If you believe in love, no unfair comment can ever bring doubt to your heart.  Remember, he’s yours.

2.  Don’t ever feel that you don’t deserve him.

Be proud of your man. If he happens to be a person who’s blessed with good looks and charm, then so be it.  When you overhear people whisper comments, don’t feel guilty about it.  No law states that beautiful men should be exclusively paired with equally attractive ladies. Be thankful that you have a man who looks beyond the superficial norm of beauty. For being yourself, you’ve made yourself worthy of his deep affection.

3. Don’t be conscious about it.

Today, many men have become a lot vainer than their female counterparts.  They love to look good and flaunt it.  It’s not your fault to have a boyfriend who knows how to take care of himself.  And you can’t be faulted either for not keeping up with your man’s grooming skills.

4. Don’t change his ways.

It would be a mistake to alter your man’s grooming style and cheerful outlook only to suit your needs.  If his fashion statement completely eclipses that of yours and as a result he gets to be noticed more, don’t criticize him.  Unless he’s making a conscious effort to make you appear inferior to him in front of people, stand by his side.

5.  Glam yourself up.

If you can’t beat him, join him! Join in his habits of appearing better.  But never forget that you should improve for yourself more, although he will still have something to do with it.  Bottom line,  you owe it to yourself to look pretty.

You may not be of equal caliber to him as regards physical appearance but you can stand out in a crowd with your wit and intelligence. A magical transformation may not happen, but by putting serious effort into it, you can prove that you’re not in the relationship to simply be an embarassment to your man.

4.

We all know women just love to shop.  And most guys, well, don’t. It’s simply in the basic biological makeup of the male and female species.

Here is a scene you might amusingly familiar. First, you relentlessly beg to him to accompany you on your shopping spree. On the way, he whines and complains about the traffic, the scant parking space, and the mob of shoppers around the mall.

You finally get there. You stop by at every shop with an attractive display on the window. He tags along intolerantly while carrying your shopping bags and muttering something under his breath. You try on a few clothes while he sites on the waiting area by the door checking his watch every minute or so. Eventually, his impatience gets the best of him and tell you bluntly that it’s time to go.

So, how to avoid this situation? Here are some tips to get him to go shopping with you..willingly.

1. Go to a place with “everything” in it. Keep his interests in mind and make sure the mall you will go to will cater to both of your whims.

2. Make a list. Men don’t like to go around the mall aimlessly. Save the window shopping on a date with your girls pals.

3. Shop for holiday gifts and birthday presents for friends and family altogether. At least this time, you would be both on the same team.

4. Make him feel useful. When you try on a dress, ask him what he thinks or ask him to suggest a color that would best look good on you. You don’t have to give in to his opinions all the time, but through this way, he will feel that his opinions count.

5. End the day with a quality time together. A nice, quiet dinner or movie to cap the retail therapy day will be a perfect ending.

6. Let him wander by himself for sometime. This is to make him feel that you didn’t drag him along just to carry the bags. Agree on a certain time and spot where you would meet after. An hour-long of separation is good enough. He can check out gadgets and car accessories while you search for the perfect blouse.

When men need to buy something, they go directly to the store, no detours, no stopovers. There is a minority that love to shop but the stereotype myth hold true, shopping is a woman’s sport. And since relationships are about compromising, try to digest the above tips to convince your man to go shop with you and enjoy it too.

If guys think that girls are hard to comprehend, girls think so vice versa, too! Guys give meaning to everything, from you not calling on time to the way you talk at times. Whether you like it or not, serious guys entering into a relationship are very paranoid. They would want to make sure that they do everything right and they don’t mess this chance they have with a girl they like.

So, how do you avoid sending a wrong message? In reality, the place you live says a lot about what you really are. If a picture paints a thousand words and a video a means million thoughts, how would a “live” event seem? If a guy sees your place and he sees…

Red and Black furniture accent
As we all know, red is regarded as a hot and warm color. Also symbolizes aggression and high energy. In the western world, it is the symbol of love and passion. On the other hand, the color black is actually not a color. It is the absence of color. It is a mysterious and a color that is full of suspense. When both colors matched together, this will make a guy feel that the girl is seductive, hot and sexy. This can also be compared to her underwear colors where black and red are the sexiest ones. Guys fantasies are unlimited.

Disorganized flat
This might turn him off as he may regard you as a happy-go-lucky person. One who isn’t ready to face life seriously and it may lead to the guy thinking the girl is not serious. Think about it, would you leave your flat messed up knowing that a special visitor will stop by? I guess not.

Collection
Girls love them. Not just shoes, but bags, accessories, shirts, wallets, everything! But, do you know that if a guy saw your huge collection of shoes or bags, he would back-off a bit? Unless he is a filthy rich guy who can compensate your splurges, he will stop and think for awhile if he can handle that kind of situation in the future.

Your boy best friend
This is a no-no. Letting your boy best friend hang around your flat often is a bad idea, believe me. This is just the same as talking with him about your ex-boyfriend. It is also the same as listening to your guy best friend’s advice over his advice. The point here is, give importance and priority to him over anyone else. He would notice this and will appreciate it.

Animals and creatures
This will show him that you are not a kind of girl who over reacts when seeing a small mouse. This means, the girl is the girl-next-door type who isn’t afraid of doing anything menial like cleaning the bathroom. Having dogs or cats around means, you are responsible enough to feed, take care and clean them. Just make sure it is not insects that you are taking care of. Now that is a turn off.

Paper works everywhere
This might send two different signals to a guy. First, he might regard you as a workaholic. That is not good because he might think that you would be too busy for him next time, both of you would have a gap and thus, resulting to a dysfunctional relationship. On the other hand, he might regard you as a very responsible type of woman who can handle responsibility at it’s best. Just make sure, that being responsible comes with a great sense of time management.

So, if the guy you’re eyeing to be with for the rest of your life comes over, be sure to leave everything in order. They say that the fastest way to a man’s heart is his stomach? Not all the time. Even if you do not know how to cook but, you are a simple yet brilliant, organized person, he will love you anyway.

It is general notion that men usually kee things to themselves and just let things pass without hinting a word, that they avoid confrontations as much as possible. These things are actually good for us, in a dominating sense, but hey, for my part, I would like a little voicing out. It’s pretty scary to see someone so silent and meek to just burst out in anger and lose control.

Think it will be fair ro air their sides for once. Here are a couple of things men want to say but out of a number of reasons that they themselves only know, can’t let us know.

1. Chivalry’s still alive and kicking. Loads of men still would want to open the doors for us and pay for dinner or even pour wine for us. So, let them do these things if they want to, as long as we can feel that they do it wholeheartedly.

2. Majority of men get annoyed when we answer our phones during a date, except when it’s an emergency and it still bugs them what situations qualifies for us women as emergencies.

3. Men would really appreciate if we would be more open in learning what they like to do. Like watch baseball games or playing poker with them. For my part, I want to learn to play poker,really.

4. Our words are everything to them. So they take whatever we say, if we say we’re ok, they’ll believe that, even though ok is our metaphor for there’s something wrong and we need to talk. Men are pretty straight-forward so a little degree of directness from us women won’t hurt as well.

5. Like us women, they also need to bond with their friends without us barging in and looking devastatingly beautiful. So, let’s give them the time once in a while.

I don’t pretend to be an expert on guys or know how to size them up perfectly. But these are just from what I gathered from a couple of guy friends I have. And we have a lot to be thankful to God when he created men even how independent we are. I think it applies to all. Women also expect the above from men but the difference is that we say it out loud. What’s important is that we compromise and give each other a little bit of freedom.